When you end a relationship both of you have your share of guilt. But sometimes, it’s quite obvious that your partner was mostly responsible for bringing down the relationship. If you think you were just the victim of a toxic woman then you should read this. Every failed relationship teaches us something and you can improve your self if you can learn from the past.
A toxic partner is someone who is selfish, self-absorbed and vain. She doesn’t care for anything but her feelings. She enjoys having control over everything and often plays the victim as a way of manipulating you. Sometimes, she doesn’t want you to improve yourself, to risk having you as superior to her when it comes to career. Jealous, suspicious and always looking for an reason to fight.
Even if you know you are with this type of woman, you can’t really leave the relationship. You feel trapped because she seems to want you in every part of her life, living more intense than you do. This is attractive up to a point. It often turns out that this kind of person is jealous and mistrusting you, expecting you to give your life for her but not in a heroic sense: she want you to be her modern slave. If you managed to get out of the relationship, than you now know what are its limits. You know when you should be there for her and when you should step back. From this experience, you know that is not a good idea to want to control everything and to smother your partner with your love.
A pessimistic person can also be toxic for you and the relationship. It might have been attractive that she was mysterious and weak, needing to be discovered and protected, but sooner or later you’ll put an end to it. Someone who is getting you down with her mood is toxic for you. Breaking free from such a relationship will help you understand what are your likes and dislikes, what are the things that make you happy. As you spent your time trying to be optimistic, you’ll now value an upbeat mood. You know now that you are the only one responsible for your happiness and that you always have a choice.